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- Brief intro on attachment (if you are new to the topic)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What is secure attachment?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Common signs of adults with secure attachment<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What are the benefits of secure attachment:\n
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- at the workplace?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- in relationships?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- in friendships?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
First things first – what is attachment?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
An attachment style<\/a> is the emotional bond that a child forms with their caregiver during their formative period \u2013 typically the first eighteen months of their life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
According to attachment <\/a>theor<\/a>y<\/a>, which was devised by John Bowlby<\/a> and Mary Ainsworth<\/a> in the 1950s, the quality of this early bond usually determines our ability to relate to others and how we manage our relationships \u2013 both personal and professional \u2013 throughout our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a child spends their early years in an environment that could be considered inconsistent, neglectful, chaotic or traumatic, then they may develop an insecure attachment<\/a>. There are three types of insecure attachment: anxious-preoccupied<\/a>, avoidant-dismissive<\/a>, and disorganized<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, if a caregiver makes their child feel safe, seen, and understood, as well as responds to their needs appropriately as they develop, then their child will likely develop a secure attachment<\/a>. As the child moves into adulthood, their secure attachment usually helps them to form a healthy view of themselves and of other people, as well as navigate the different types of relationships in their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Common signs of adults who are securely attached:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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- Positive view of themselves<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Positive view of others<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Healthy self-esteem<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Comfortable with intimacy<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Capable of setting boundaries in relationships<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Self-sufficient, they\u2019re also comfortable asking for support when they need it<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Can trust others<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- People enjoy being in their company<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Comfortable with emotional closeness<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Capable of developing and maintaining strong relationships<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Emotionally balanced<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Able to emotionally regulate people close to them<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Unsurprisingly, the secure attachment style is the one that people typically aspire. After all, people with secure attachment are usually emotionally balanced, calm, and comfortable with intimacy without backing off or becoming overly needy or clingy<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, having a secure attachment style doesn\u2019t mean that someone is perfect or that they won\u2019t experience relationship problems in the different domains of their life. The difference is that they might be secure enough in themselves to take responsibility for their mistakes and admit when they need support from others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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